The Face of Depression

We all have been seeing a lot of effort that has been installed by social media and celebrities to make people grasp what depression is, how to deal with it and how to figure out if somebody is going through it. However, can we really figure out if somebody is going through depression? Is there really a “face” of it?

Let me try to rub some shimmer on this topic. Well.. according to my understanding you cannot really figure out by looking at a person if he/she is going through a phase of depression. Let us fathom this through some examples.

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The person in the above image is obviously crying and we all can see it. Don’t we?! The moment we see a picture like this, many words run through our minds and depression is one of them. Now let us all scroll down our eyes to the picture below.

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What do we see? A happy face, a happy person smiling right at you. Just like the picture we saw earlier, many words run through our minds and depression isn’t one of them. Of course! That’s where we go wrong. A Taylor Swift’s song just ran through my head (yeah out of nowhere) – “Hey Stephen I know looks can be deceiving but I know I saw a lot in you“. Looks surely are deceiving and hey we all mostly judge a book by its cover, accept it or not!

A happy face can be depressed and that’s the whole truth. You cannot look at a person and just point out “Oh this person is depressed”, doesn’t happen this way. You never know what’s going on behind that beautiful smile he/she always have, glued to their faces.

There are thousands of people who go through this, try to kill themselves and their loved ones, family, friends never had an idea about what they were going through.

Depression has no face, it is as dangerous as cancer. Anyone can be going through it even your closest ones and you won’t be able to realize. So keep talking to your people, ask about how they are doing. You never know what you are doing for somebody just by calling them on their phones or meeting them once in a week or once a month.

Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and often times we call a man cold when he is only sad.
― Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

 

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What’s Your Job Designation?!

We all have heard the expression once (actually many) in our lives that everything which happens, happens for good. Well.. it is nothing but a comfort that we seek and get in these lines. Failure doesn’t come that easy, it has its own procedure. The procedure can differ from time to time and from situation to situation. For instance, you get hired – you are happy and then suddenly one day you are kicked out of the job that you loved in a single day. That’s when you comprehend, not everything in which you give your hundred percent adheres to you no matter how vigorously you try. 

If I talk about myself, I am not really a LinkedIn person but I thought to give it a try and trust me guys, I failed a big time. So.. I click on “Join” and the moment I do it, it felt like it’s not that hard for me to be a ‘LinkedIn person’. Perhaps, I was left to wonder for a long long time, I still am in dilemma. Screenshot (2)  

As soon as this page opened I was stung to confusion. I mean, I am a Mass Communication student, creative, I have good communication skills, I can write well (pretty much), I can give awareness training to people, I can consult and also I can create designs in multiple software (amazing! right? :p ). Yeah, I am pretty much done with the bragging but again.. what in the world should I select as my job designation? 

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Ah! life gets tough here. Lucky are those who are ‘LinkedIn people’, I envy you guys. I am 24 and still so confused regarding my “job profile”  (this is what we call it). You know what? It’s okay. It is okay to be confused sometimes to reach where you want to. Do you know where you want to really reach? I know the answer, we all know the answer to this question, “Up There”. 

My “up there” cannot be decided by my LinkedIn page and to be true I haven’t figured it out yet. But I will find a way and so will you. So what’s your “Up There”? 

 

Let me know in the comments below!!

Ellwin Makeup Face Base Foundation: Review

Since a long long time I wanted to buy a primer because I wanted to know all about the hype behind it. Every makeup video I saw included primer as a base so I bought one finally. It is called, Ellwin Makeup Face Base Foundation, super affordable and easily available on any of the nearest stores. 

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The best thing about this primer is that it is really very light and it leaves your skin feeling really soft. I don’t usually prefer applying foundation on my face because for some reasons it doesn’t blend well with my skin. So, as I was super excited to use the primer and see the results, I used it before applying the primer and the result was amazing. One can see the difference easily.  

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The foundation blended up nicely and it felt really light. You can also use it before applying your sunscreen. I would rate this product an 8 on a scale of 10. 

Choose your primer according to your skin. I have dry skin and it worked great for me though. 

Keep priming! 😉

 

 

 

Ma Earth Botanicals Hydrating Cream: Review

Hey, stunners! Hope you all are doing well and taking good care of your skin. Like many, I have a really dry skin and there comes a time when I can’t really go out without a cream which keeps me super hydrated. The only thing I hate about winters is the white “oh-so-beautiful” snow that grows naturally on your skin (I hate dryness). 

So earlier this week I added a new member to my sling bag, Ma Earth Botanicals Hydrating Cream. This cream is everything you will be needing this winter and I have already started using it because as I mentioned earlier, my skin is super duper dry. 

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On a scale of 10, I would give this product 7 as it is not meant to be used in the summers. I used this for summers and I had pimples all over my face. Perhaps it is different for every skin type. 

Apart from that, you cannot deny that the best way to keep your skin hydrated is still our medieval remedy.. that is drinking a lot of water. In case you forget drinking water (like me), set an alarm on your phone so that you remember. 

Keep yourself well hydrated plus use Ma Earth Botanicals Hydrating Cream for healthier and dryness free skin. 

Keep stunning. ❤

C.A.L Detail Me Mascara: Review

Heya lovelies! How many of you cannot imagine your lives without a mascara? Oh.. I am sure one of you. I cannot imagine going out without my C.A.L Detail Me Mascara and there are so many good reasons behind it. For people like me who don’t have long and thick eyelashes, a mascara can do wonders if you choose the right one. 😉

Without wasting any time I am gonna tell you a not so secret-y secret for heavenly looking eyelashes:

C.A.L Detail Me Mascara

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It comes in a cool, rough golden colored packaging which is hard to resist.

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Charcoal Black Color

Oh, I love how black is the color and the texture of this mascara. If you want your lashes to be as black as your soul.. this is surely the one for you. 😉

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Sleek Flexible Applier

Oh, how I love the brush of this mascara. It gives the finest strokes making your every eyelash stand out.

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Well.. this worked quite well.. for me and now I cannot step out of my house without this magic wand. 😉

You can always give it shot if you’re looking forward to changing your mascara. 🙂 😛

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..and this is me flaunting my mascara 😛

Happy Eye Flaunting Ladies! ❤

 

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Black Stilettos, Old Women and Choices

So I walked in this footwear store and let my eyes sweep in the vicinity to have their treat, which was due on me from a long time. My eyes, oh well I had a bad squint and my feet were tickling with joy to get inside those shiny new shoes (any of them). Boots, Pumps, Loafers, Flat slippers, sneakers, stilettos, wedges, in every shade of red, blue, green, yellow, beige, black etc. For some unknown reasons, I have an evergreen attraction towards full-length black boots. I usually prefer footwear with minimal heel perhaps for a change my eyes glued to these 6-inch shiny black stilettos.29d681f64fc5cb9db8ab202f3e80ac57
While my heart was going through a laborious time convincing my mind to go for the heels, there walked in some women aged between grandma and grandma’s friends! There I was standing on one side of the shelf full of shoes and on the other, were they. Looking for the same thing but differently. As I started with the shiny and fancy ones they started with the least fancy and shiny ones with no heels at all. Our choice was way too divergent.
As I continued to accolade the pair that I had in my hands, the lady came up to me and homaged me for having a satisfying choice. I could see in her eyes that she loved the pair as much as I did, but there was something that was holding her back from purchasing those. I insisted her to give it a shot, but she denied saying that she was too old for it. There might be many justifications such as the age factor, maybe she thought she cannot pull them off at this age or what the society would say. Yeah, it’s true! People judge you by any way they can, may it be your clothes, shoes, your tattoos, and even your hair.
The shine in her eyes for those stilettos left me wondering for hours and I decided since then that I would never in my life, compromise with the little things which I want to do or buy for myself that make me feel happy. For a woman, the love for shoe and clothes can never succumb. She surely was the youngest at heart amongst any of us present there, it was just the wrinkles on her face that stopped her from feeling young from the outside.
Our society’s blueprint has been set as such that we say it or not, at some point in time in our lives, when the years pass and we age, we feel trapped in our own body as if it belongs to someone else. We want to enjoy, have fun again but something just stops us. According to me, it’s the fear of chattering lip gloss mouths and wandering eyes.
Why do we stop enjoying our lives at first? Why do we stop doing things that make us feel good, sanguine and happy? Since when have we started to feel cornered in our own skin? Since when we have drawn this thick line of a “to do” and “not to do” list and formed these age groups when it comes to happiness?! When did it start? There is a starting point for everything.
My mom doesn’t wear bright reds, she thinks it is not her “age” to wear bright colors like that, ignoring the fact how beautiful she looks in it and how much she loves it.
I don’t know if this blog post makes sense to any of you reading this but I hope somebody somewhere reading this could relate to it. Footwear is such a small thing but you know as they say, small things that can make you the happiest, those are the things that count in life. We never know what the other person is going through in their life, for us, our matters and troubles are gigantic.
So the lady and her friends left with boxes of the footwear “matching” their “age”, and for me, how could have I caved-in? I walked off with the same pair I wanted to and with the hope of all of us, breaking free from all the barriers that we have spawned.
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Happy Freedom People!

 

Bottom Hugging Pants and Naked Legs

Since the comments on Priyanka Chopra’s photograph with Honourable Prime Minister broke the internet, it became mandatory for me to write this post. This substantiates that no matter how successful you are as a person, you would always be judged by what you wear as a woman. No matter how covered you are from the upper half of your body if your bottom half is showing…Well, Lady.. may the good Lord save you and deliver you from people (Amen).

It was the first day at the office and I wore a beautiful blue and black formal dress covered from my neck to my knees. Unaware of what was coming my way (to make it sound more dramatic), I sat on my desk feeling confident and happy about the new beginning. Later that day, I was called up by my boss in his office explaining to me why I shouldn’t be wearing a dress like that in office. The whole matter was about the people in the office not being able to digest my beautiful hairless toned legs.

My boss is a smashingly cool human but at that point of time, I was taken aback by the comments made on my clothes. Later I understood what he meant. All he wanted for me was to stay protected / safe and to be away from those meandering eyes, for all one knows, Delhi is so unsafe. But why cannot I wear what I want to? In this hot weather, I too want to feel the cold breeze and the air from the fan playing with my sleek legs.

Well.. we cannot overlook the fact that we live in an imposter society where you can wear a bottom nestling trouser, legging, long skirt which tightly hugs your buttocks whereas, showing your calf and ankle is a hell no. Viola! You are dishonoring the Prime Minister. What about all the aunties who would die to see you wrapped up in a saree showing off your belly, your sexy waist? On the other hand, you wearing a crop top is something they cannot abide.

I can go on and on with this. The point is that everything comes down to just one thing, “A Pair of Beautiful Hairless Legs”. Come on you people, they’re just legs, part of your body which help you to walk, run, sit and stand. The only difference between a female’s leg and a male’s leg is the hair which comes with it. Females wax/ shave/ remove them and guys don’t (well.. nowadays many shave too). Oh! not to forget their masculinity is in their body hair. 😛

For those who think that rape “happens” (it just happens) because of a woman’s clothing, the recent assault on a woman covered in Burqa from head to toe must have been a mirage because you know what they say –  “No Skin Show, No Rape”.

Happy Leg Flaunting Ladies! ❤

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Stare Of a Rapist

I see you looking at me,

I see you staring at me,

I see you staring at my bust no matter what I wear.

I see you staring at me again, again,again and again,
I try to keep myself calm and composed,
I try to keep myself away from your stare,
You just don’t seem to stop,
Please just stop,
You’ve got a woman at home waiting for you,
You’ve got a girl who is managing to dodge the same stare,
You are still staring at me,
Oh please stop,
Stop smiling at me.
Everytime you stare I feel like scratching off this skin off my body,
Now will you stop!

With the eyes of a rapist
You rape me
You rape me daily
You leave no chance to see through my drapery.

You disgust me now
I am scared
Yes you scare me
And you’re still staring
Would you please stop!?

I understand you have been entitled a “Man” in this world,
I understand that you are superior sex,
I understand that you can exploit me,
I understand that you can shatter me,
I understand that you “appreciate” beauty,
Would you not understand me,
And please stop just stop staring at me!

I am a 4 year old, 12 year old, I am an 18 year old, I am a 23 year old and I am a 60 year old,
Pleading you to stop just stop.
Haven’t you had enough of the staring, touching and raping me?
I am tired
I am really tired of your stare, your creepy smile, your “compliments”.
I am tired of you.
Please stop staring at me.

I am crying now
You make me feel so sad
You make me feel so unsafe in my own skin
Your raping eyes oh your staring eyes,
I cannot bear them anymore,
Please stop just stop staring at me
Just STOP

Hijab And Fashion: Blended And Harmonized

The niece of Prophet Muhammad’s wife, Aisha bint Talha, when requested by her husband to wear a veil replied, “Since the Almighty hath put on me the stamp of beauty, it is my wish that the public should view the beauty and thereby recognize His grace unto them. On no account, therefore, will I veil myself”
(Reese, Lyn. “Women in the Muslim World: Personalities and Perspectives From the Past”).

Veiling wasn’t considered as a religious symbol, perhaps a status symbol for the rich class, before Angel Gabriel voiced to the Prophet.

The capaciousness of what a woman should do is quite debatable. With/without a veil, the Hijabi women are successful in blending and harmonizing fashion with Islam.

Such an accessible task it is to know about a person, by a piece of fabric draped over his/ her body.. which defines that person’s style statement. We then juxtapose that individual’s style with the latest “fashion”.

Gianni Versace once said, “Don’t be into trends. Don’t make fashion own you, but you decide what you are, what you want to express by the way you dress and the way to live.”  Seems like the girls have heard this quite vociferously and are following Versace quite religiously!

Now let us heave some gloss on the Islamic Fashion. What comes to our mind? The Hijabs, Abayas, Burkas and the floor touching dresses. Perhaps so much there is, to choose from the rest of the fashion world! The bodycon dresses, mini skirts, high waist jeans, shirts, skirts, shoes, overcoats, slit skirts, and tons and tons of the other drapery.

Alas! So unfair would that be if today’s woman, who shouts her mind.. doesn’t let her style speak. Voila! there she goes again, finding a way to look fabulous expressing by the way she dresses and who she is!

Two different worlds, thousands of debates: Can fashion and Islam go hand in hand?! Absconding all the debates and arguments abaft, today’s Muslim women are all ready to set fire on the fashion passageway.

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How flabbergasted these two seeing sources of my body were when they saw the two worlds pulverize. The Islamic Fashion has grown incredibly all these years.

Below are some of the looks that really caught my eye:

  • These casual Hijab looks are so in trend and can be worn just as elegantly as one would want. Pairing up the Hijab with fitted jeans seems to work the magic!

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  • Funkier and cooler look: Well.. this is how one can carry a more casual and cool look wearing a Hijab!

 

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  • The Let Go: Now this look is more of a let go, comfortable one.

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  • The Bodycon: There are so many styles of how the Hijab can be wrapped around your head. The bodycon dresses are one of the styles that never fade away and a Hijab added can work wonders for those who cover their heads.

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  • Loose Tops and Lowers: Talking about casual, how can one forget about loose tops and lowers!  Pair a top and a lower in contrast or match it up with the Hijab and you are good to go.

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  • Magnetic Gowns and Belts: How doll-like do you wanna look?! The best way to rock the Hijab with the gowns is here. Adding a belt does all the magic!

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  • The Three Piece: The Hijab, blouse and a long skirt, the three piece. Try to stop complementing if you can!

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  • Cultural Blend: Now this is a masterpiece! Personally my favorite look with a blend of two cultures. The Bindi, the Hijab and the Saree.. who’d have thought this could be such an amazing amalgamation!

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The world may judge you by what you drape, or maybe because you don’t fit in the criterion that they’ve created. The alone person you need to hold elated is yourself and you are the most complacent, when in your own skin! 
Wear what you wanna wear and slay! 

Pride Of The Knowns

I have a dinky bit of lightning left in me. It was way more glistening when I started. Things are getting worse as the days are fleeting. I comprehend that I may not be able to live alone perhaps it will be better than living with people I don’t wanna live with! I cannot decide what or how am I going to do things and make myself “settled” as this is the only thing we live for!

Intermittently, well most of the times I feel like migrating to some alien place but then, where else can I be?! I am falling, Oh yes I am falling. I remember how contented I was when I attended the gay pride. Ah! those colorful people all around me, dancing, laughing, hugging, grinning at each other, spreading the love! I wish it didn’t have a deadline. It felt like I was one of those colors of the rainbow on the flag. Conceivably, now I am gawking at my phone’s screen, desiring dad’s call.

Life isn’t atrocious though! Life’s always acceptable, it’s the people who lacerate their own kind! I can still see those people in my mind, their extreme close-ups, talking and laughing out loud just like a movie. But it was way more than the fight for choosing your own sexuality. It was about freedom, freedom from rapes and injustice, fight for women’s rights, bigotry on the basis of class, religion, ability sexual identity, and tribe!

Proud I am today to have attended the pride. Even though I have so many problems in my life, like my broken nail, I took out time from my busy schedule which includes sitting and thinking about how am I going to make my life right. In bits and pieces, I stood up for something which made me feel good about myself again.

 Later that day I realized that people out there are actually fighting to live as their own selves, which is an enormous thing in itself. People like us, the “NORMAL” ones are still tensed wondering about what to eat in the next meal.  On the other hand, the “GLADSOME” are on fire.

Fight for your right! Fight for your tribe.  Happy pride!

Images by: Shivansh Johri