According to a study, people are the most happy when with friends, relatives and spouse in order. Well, this study is contradictory to my inner feelings these days. Relatives, I don’t actually feel happy meeting them rather I feel like running if any being sighted! Wooosh! If you’re an Indian and reading this, you’d know what I am talking about.
When you’re in your twenties you’re the most confused/ unsettled/ tensed about making your career, but hey this isn’t enought! This is the time when people start nagging you about marriage. Wait! What? I don’t even look like an adult yet!!!
Keeping parents aside for a little while and moving further talking about our “caring” relatives first. Who doesn’t love meeting their aunts, uncles, cousins and everyone who falls into this category! I do too but ever since I turned 23, I’ve been hearing a lot of things regarding me getting married to some nice guy who looks good and earns really good (a perfect match)! Yay! Why? Because obviously they want my “happiness”. Right?! Oh and not to forget I am getting old, as I will be turning 25 soon! Goodness Gracious, who’d want to marry an oldie! Just a reminder – I look like this (yes the old woman below) and I’d probably look the same at my 25th (dear men, excuse my wrinkles). 😉
Talking about parents, well let me tell you a story of a guy who wants to marry his lover so he gathered the courage to tell his mother:
Son : Maa, I want to marry this girl I love
Maa: She’s not good for you. Forget her
Son : How can you say, you don’t even know her. I’ve known her for 3 years.
Maa : Who are you to decide who are you going to marry? I gave you birth, I fed you all these years and you’re gonna marry a girl of your choice?
Son: but you and dad had a love marriage too!
Maa : Maa se zubaan chalata hai? (Now you’re gonna talk back to your mother?)
*End of the story*
Most of the conversations with most of our parents end the same way (Most of them)! So now you’re left with two things : 1. You cannot marry the person you love! 2. If you don’t want to marry someone, nobody cares, you’ve got to marry anyway!
My parents have always been really chilled out about me not getting married early and stuff but whenever my mom talks to somebody may it be relatives or her friends she starts nagging me indirectly. It’s good that my cousins are getting good marriage proposals I am happy (as long as they’re not coming for me).
Since the day we are born our parents think about two things, our careers and our marriage someday! For me that day hasn’t come yet! And it’s going to take time. Maybe there are more out there who feel the same. I may not be succesful right now but I will be and then I might decide to marry someone I want to get married to or maybe not!
Why shall someone other than me decide when and with whom I am going to share my feelings and my bed with or who’s going to be the father to my kids (who don’t even exist).
Yes, I’m aging like everyone else but I am not getting old,
I want to break free and and go to adventures Untold,
Let me figure out what I want in life,
Probably then I will know, in every situation how to survive,
And then it’s upto me to decide,
whether to be or not to be someone’s wife.
Marriage: A precondition?